It's complicated

Okay, here's the story,

I thought staying at home and getting a job would be uber cool, but it turns out, when you start earning money, it's a different story now, you can't just spend the money on all the clothes in the world; instead, it's gotta be channeled to somewhere useful.

ok fine, that's nice to know.

Okay, maybe it's just me, but I'm seriously finding life terribly complicated. For example, you're at an age where e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g you say is taken very s.e.r.i.o.u.s.l.y.

I personally experienced this my self a couple weeks ago, where I hurt a person very close to me by making a joke...

Clearly it was a stupid one...Sigh

Now I'm witnessing one, between two very important people in my life. Lets call them A and N

A shouts, says a lot of hurtful things at times, and thinks he's always right. N on the other hand, takes thse things to heart, breeds the words in her heart, and ensures it gets embedded into every single cell of her brain, then decides to be very spiteful...

And me,
why, as usual, I get stuck in the middle, A n N wont talk to each other, instead they talk to each other via me,
btw, I ain't interested in this shit one bit!

but what to doo, they're important in my life, so I gotta stay involved.

From these past couple of events, I've learn't a few things.

a) seriously think before you talk
b) what's a joke in your head may not be to another
c)learn to take words lightly

It's not like we have such a long time on Earth (phew) so in the short span of time here, why not just laugh and love each other instead of constantly bickering and shouting...

Jeez

And if you feel you have to get absolutely angry, fine, be angry, but also take time to cool down after and GET OVER IT!

Cos, keeping it to heart isn't gonna take you anywhere, it's just gonna bring you down. FYI, this is a very serious problem among women, they forgive but they tend to not forget.

Oh and when you forgive, make sure you're sincere. Please don't be superficial.

Hope you now understand why I think the world a.k.a my life is so damn complicated!

I do not enjoy drama! and for some weird reason, ever since I've finished University, I would be faced with some drama or the other at least twice a month! Heck this is worse then getting periods!

Oh, work's getting better now.

Also, I do think that the world would be awesome, if people were like me? Don't you think so? =)

So if you insult somebody, please say sorry, if you get insulted, please forgive. And mean it both ways!

Why to such extent?

Today, I was appalled to read the headlines on BBC, why women are being mistreated in Afghanistan, I just don't get.

1. Afghan women fight on for rights

2. Row over Afghan wife-starving law

What is it that's in the heads of those men, that makes them act in such a perverse and sadistic nature.

I was shocked when I read it. Shocked but I also expected it. I had prior introduction to such behaviour when I read the book "the Kite Runner" by Khaled Hosseini. Initially I thought it was a mere exaggeration, but after having read these 2 articles, I'm just appalled.

How can any man with a sane mind treat any woman be it sister, wife, daughter or mother as such.
I hope President Sarkozy get his way with the Burqa ban. I think these women have been oppresed over many many generations and the men have taken advantage of that, and have made it a tradition.

No woman should ever be ashamed of her face and should not be made to hind behind a veil. Hiding your body I can understand, but modesty does not mean covering your face as well.

To the burqa clad women out there. Know your rights. Why should your partner ask you to hide under a veil after marriage? Is there no trust between the two of you. Does he not have faith in you? If so, you shouldn't even be getting married in the first place.

Ps: i'd like to apologize if I offend any parties. But these are strongly my views and I have a right to express them.

Excerpts From Signals by Joel Rothschild

Signals By Joel Rothschild was a book I read lately. It's about a man, Albert who committed suicide as he could no longer bear the pains of life. His gay lover, Joel is till today alive as he believes that Albert, is guiding him everyday.

This was definitely an amazing read.

Fyi, Joel Rothschild is the longest surviving HIV + patient.

Joel, you must not take your own life. You must go as far as you can in life. Know that each and every moment of life matters and that they are the same in many ways. Ways you have not yet seen. The good, the bad, the healthy days, the sick ones, happy sad, bored,or thrilled- they are the same. With each and every breath, and in every moment of life, you are working things out, things that are connected to some thing far greater. You are part of something much bigger. We are all part of this larger purpose. Those kind people and those cruel people all have a purpose you can't possibly understand right now. Each and every person matters, and each and every moment matters. The painful ones included. We are all one.

You are now confined to living a single moment at a time. Moment by moment, you mark your life. All spiritual growth is based on work from the past. All past experiences are building blocks. All the individual moments of life are the grains of matter that form each block. We are more than grains of sand on a collective beach that is God- we are individual universes bound, tied and connected to one another.

Individual spiritual growth is connected to a collective growth. Free will and destiny are two paths that head to the same place. They cross each other along the way. They are inseparable. Nor is the individual separate from the whole. All life forces are evolving, growing, and moving forward toward oneness with the infinite.

You must live as many of life's moments as you can endure. There is meaning and purpose in every breath of life for you- and for every one- including the moments of pain and suffering. All suffering is connected to a greater good you can't possibly understand right now. Each breath, each second of life matters. In every breath and moment of life, you are indeed accomplishing and working out so much that you can't understand or recognize from where you are now.

Trust me, trust in our love. You will learn and grow through my death. You will know it was my path and destiny to end my life in that moment. It was my life's lesson. What I've learned since death. My suicide is also connected to a greater good. You will see it, in part, unfold in your own life. I will contact you again. I am always with you.

Albert Fleites to Joel Rothschild in the book "Signals" by Joel Rothschild.

A debate between a famous rabbi and a cardinal on the subject of the differences between Christianity and Judaism:

The Rabbi concluded:

For two thousand years, Christians have believed that mankind is intrinsically bad, that all human beings inherit original sin and always must go to God for forgiveness. Jews on the other hand, for four thousand years, have tended to believe mankind is intrinsically good. We do make mistakes, however, and should go to God for forgiveness when we do so.

Keep it up Joel!